Do you have a group of friends where you just fit? Maybe you have several?
Confession time. I have never been one of the cool crowd. At school, I mixed with everyone, but although I had lots of friends and could flit from one group to another in the common room, there was never a really firm friendship group. If the occasion called for it, I could sit with probably anyone in my year group, or the one above, and have a natter, but I would have a hard time defining which group I fell in to – not the “popular” or the “swots”. Certainly not the “sporty” and not even the group that didn’t fit into another group! Maybe this means I am a free spirit or something equally contrite, but I have never felt truly comfortable with any definition of friendship groups.
I always had more boy friends than girl friends (perhaps the former resulted in the latter) and I usually still find boys easier to get on with – I guess I feel more at ease and not like I have to prove anything or live up to boys in the same way I do with girls (probably due to a general lack of confidence).
In my previous job, my role was in between two defined segments of the business – so I got on with both, but was neither one nor the other. Even in my online personas I have several groups of friends, and move between them for different conversations and topics. Now, as a self employed mum I sort of do, but I’m not sure I fit properly into the blogging community. Time will tell, I guess.
Is it something I am doing, or not doing, that I should be, which means I don’t quite fit? Don’t get me wrong, I am quite happy with lots of different friends, but I sometimes feel a bit of a square peg in a round hole. Maybe everyone feels a bit like this.
So, do you fit?
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