I was thinking about this recently, having had a bit of a stressy time with the boys over the extended Christmas holidays. I do try to keep my cool with them, but it’s not always easy, so I was wondering what exactly makes a good mum?
Is it the “stepford wife” who cooks everything from scratch, keeps the house in perfect order and still has time to whip up brownies at a moment’s notice?
Is it the disciplinarian mum who’s children behave perfectly all the time, never have more than one toy out at a time, and are able to play quietly?
Is it the sycophantic mum who spends all day keeping her children happy, doing what they want to do and playing with them at their request?
I am under no pretences that I am far from a perfect mum. I am prone to shoutiness, and lost patience far more often than I would like. I would love to be the kind of mum who keeps a supply of craft materials on hand and can rustle up a perfect papier mache model, that Blue Peter would be proud of, at the drop of a hat.
But sadly I am not.
I am more the “make a den out of an old blanket and the clothes horse” rainy day kind of mum. Or the, “let’s have a wii tournament” sort. We play games, and we go splashing in puddles, but I would love to be a more relaxed mummy, and let go of the mucky footprints on the carpet, and not care about the glitter on the floor. I would love to have beautifully behaved children who never needed to be told to stop shouting at each other, or to put their toys away.
I wish I was a better mum, but instead I just try to be the best I can. My dad once told me that the time to worry about not being a good enough mum, is when you stop worrying that you are good enough. I like that advice.
What would your best tip be on how to be a good mum?